Max speaks the truth here As the sages say, you cannot choose what you want. But you must take responsibility for how you act, or do not act, on your desires. This is morality. I have just watched the French film Elles with la Binoche and can I just say that the film nails it. Men are obsessed with giving something back to the womb, and you can embrace the persistence of that life-force or you can despise its animality. But the film underplays the arse.